AITAH [M/35] for not wanting to move to my partner's [M/39] new town?
My partner (M39) and I (M35) used to live together for 5 years.
Because his work was toxic, he searched for a new job and found one in a very small town, 4 hours away by car.
I love my partner, but the town is very small. I wouldn't be able to find a job there, I might be able to keep my job but would need to return every two or three weeks for a couple of days.
Three problems that I see:
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that town is very remote and it feels very isolating and lonely whenever I'm there. There aren't many facilities or conveniences
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I do travel frequently (once a month or so), and the nearest airport is about 1 hour away and it's very small (passenger traffic is about 400k-500k passengers annually so not a ton of options)
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my partner made the decision to move despite my protest
After 2 years of this set up, I think we are reaching a point where we need to make some decisions.. this can be in perpetuity, and I'm not sure if it's good to be in this perpetual state.
Posted Jun 11, 2026, 2:32 AM UTC