When you just want to take control of eating habits but can't

Anyways so I don't have an eating disorder and my doctor told me there's no signs of PCOS at least for me, then I realized I never binged I was just eating a lot, I naturally have an hour glass body but I'm trying to lose weight and that's gotten difficult because of control maybe or that I just love to eat, I also do have self control but maybe I just don't take action? I am currently 102kg but my body frame looks very small so the fat doesn't show, and my goal weight is to be 49kg also I'm short.