Me m37 and wife f37, I've done everything to try to fix our sexless relationship, the latest trend I'm trying to do is to get my wife into clit sucking sex toys, help TLDR: looking for long-term relationship advice

Me m37 and wife f37, I've done everything to try to fix our sexless relationship, the latest trend I'm trying to do is to get my wife into clit sucking sex toys, help

Like the title implies, I want to fix our sex life, I am a long-term relationship type of guy, I guess rare whatever, I don't like the conversations over in the dead bedrooms, I want to figure this out, we've been sexless for 13 years, which is exhausting as a guy, I just recently found out that she's been terrified to tell me that she's never even masturbated, I don't know if that's a lie or whatever but it sounds earnest from the intonation in her voice.

Anyway, this leads me to believe that her previous partners including me have never caused her to actually have a real full blown orgasm.

Which I guess is reasonable but I don't know, but I'm wanting to fix the situation I'm not wanting to divorce, this is my first marriage, we've been together since 2011 married since 2015 and I'm trying to figure this out so please don't hit me with the leave her bro bullshit.

I know that she loves me come on she does literally everything else in the relationship but sex, I feel like she has some childhood things that maybe have happened and I'm wanting to look past those.

So I found some sex toys online and she's really excited about trying them because she actually has never really expressed interest in pleasing herself. I'm thinking that maybe getting her into understanding what is possible might help our sex life, literally everything else is perfect.

I don't want to leave someone who makes me say literally everything else is perfect, but I also don't want to stay in a relationship where we're not having sex.

Maybe the ladies can lean in on this, guys maybe fall back, I know the horniness out there but I'm trying to figure this out this is serious damn it. Do you guys think that getting her to actually feel what I'm trying to help her feel will help in the situation? Or give me any insights that you might have? She seems super excited, we've been together since our early twenties, we're in our late 30s now, and it's been 13 years it's been a rough situation and, I don't mean that we've been completely sex less that entire time, but for 13 years it's been the topic that is never quite pleasing to talk about. Like we will try but within two or three minutes it's over and it feels like she's in the I'm a good girl stage still, mainly because she's just never explored, also I think that she suffers from vaginismus which she agrees with, and she's gotten some dilators to help with that and that actually has helped, but help me out.

Too long getting read? How do ladies feel about introducing some spicy sex toys into the relationship to reignite a 13 year dip in sexual drive?

I posted this over in a relationship advice and they just completely immediately removed it I don't understand that but whatever