43 [M4F] What does sex mean to you?

As a man, sex is usually on my mind. It's not always the first thing, but it's definitely there. What about you, as a woman how much do you think about sex? What does sex mean to you? Is it something pleasurable you seek out, or is it something you do to satisfy your partner? Is it a tool you use to get what you want, something to control men? Do you seek solo orgasms, or only with partners?