Just friendzoned a girl and now I find the idea of sleeping with her crazy hot. Why?

For context, I usually actively choose not to have girl friends since my 20's. By this I don't mean girl acquaintances, or girls I stay in touch with who happen to be in a friend group, or speading vibes in a social setting to everyone. I just mean as a regular close friend. It just doesn't seem to add value to my life. They either catch feelings or vice versa and it's this ping pong of validation and extra mental consideration that I find to be a liability, along with the added tension around staying friends while in a relationship.

So anyways. This girl. We made out after the first date and she's super flirty but her energy was just super anxious, traumatized, and guarded, and I also wasn't toxicly masculine enough to break through that.

I'm dominant but with crazier girls, as fucked as it sounds, just from all the friends I know in these situations and my own experiences, they respond to intensity that borders on creepy to the average person because it's so intense that it gets them out of their heads.

I was reluctant to meet her again given how the vibes were and how it felt like pulling teeth where it's like there was this tug of war between us to want to lead. Like imagine both of us calling each other weird yet still somehow continuing to entertain the interaction lmao.

We had an argument and I got annoyed, so I logicalzoned the vibes and by making that decision I basically friendzoned her and ruined the chances of whatever was left there. We both opened up more about our issues and like shit we're working through and as I said before, this is the ultimately vibe killer for relationships and early sex from my experience.

But somehow, the emotional safety vibes between us made me super incredibly horny about her. What's happening here?

It's like I've been conditioned for dominance based on my successful interactions with women, yet my body seems to react better to what works AGAINST it...