i resent my pregnant gf

im 19m and have been with my girlfriend 18f since july 2025 and she is currently pregnant with our daughter who is due next month. we knew each other before we got together in case anyone is wondering.

before anyone says it this is not about me trying to avoid responsibility i work full time have my own place my own car and im financially stable enough to support all three of us, and I fully intend to be present in my daughter's life and support her. my question is about the relationship not whether im going to be a father.

A major issue in our relationship has been her family. There were situations involving her family, including issues involving her uncle, where I got involved because I was trying to help and protect her but looking back i feel like I put myself in bad situations and almost got myself hurt and in trouble trying to be there for her.

What makes it worse is that I later found out from her cousins that I wasn't being told the full truth about some things involving her family. Whether intentional or not i feel like I was making decisions based on incomplete information.

the biggest thing I can't get over is that when all of this was happening i never felt like she really protected me stood up for me or had my back and from my perspective, she defended her family even when they were causing the problems and over time that turned into deep resentment towards her.

what makes this harder is that all of these issues happened before the pregnancy now looking back after the situation involving her uncle (he assaulted me and tried to destroy my car) i probably should have taken a step back and figured out whether I could actually move past everything before continuing the relationship. instead i stayed because I loved her and thought I could get over it. we continued the relationship and she became pregnant. Now we are a month away from having our daughter, and I'm realizing that the resentment I thought would go away never actually did. part of me feels like I didn't respect myself enough back then because I ignored feelings that were already there and i convinced myself I could move past what happened, but now I'm realizing I never really did.

I've tried to make it work because I love her and because we have a daughter on the way, but I honestly don't think I've succeeded. Lately I've realized I'm stuck between wanting to love her and wanting nothing to do with her family. Instead of getting better, the resentment has just continued to grow. Is it better to end the relationship and focus on co-parenting if the resentment is this deep, or should I be trying harder to work through it?