It Isn’t All Because of Looks

There’s so much emphasis placed on attractiveness here, but I don’t believe attractiveness is the ultimate deciding force.

I observe several average to below average people in relationships, hooking up, etc. There’s even this phenomenon on social media where people claim they like “ugly-cute” or “medium-ugly” men. This isn’t to say only extremely attractive women are sought after. While it may seem that way online, in real life, I see average to below average women living their best lives as well.

Despite finding myself attractive, this has never been reaffirmed back to me. The furthest I’ve gotten is a few guys on dating apps—from other countries—calling me attractive. Then I’d be ghosted within a few days to a week. Is it because I wasn’t attractive enough to them? Possibly.

Anyways, moral of my ted talk is I no longer subscribe my FA status to my looks alone. No, I’m not the lookiest of the lookiest, but I wouldn’t consider myself ugly. Even if I did consider myself ugly, there are many “ugly” people having no problem attracting partners.

Maybe there isn’t a reason to this unfortunate reality.