Managing your relationship and being a sissy

Hi girls, so I've been with my fiancée for a fair few years, we're both mid 30s. For a while we've had a mistress and sub dynamic, me being allowed to dress up and be caged, cleaning tasks etc etc all that stuff. Cuckolding roleplay featured heavily during it all, since we've actually done the cuckolding act though and she came home, my fiancée wants me to cool down on the sissy stuff.. No more shaving legs etc. Basically she wants a more masculine partner, my problem is that for years in my head mentally I've worked towards being a sissy as my sexual identity. So now I feel a bit in between, she doesn't mind me dressing up(in private now) but having hairy legs and all it just doesn't feel the same.

Have any of you had issues with a partner being OK with it at the start and then cooling on the idea?