When Their Reality Isn't Your Reality: A Dementia Caregiving Lesson From The Father

One of the hardest lessons many dementia caregivers eventually learn is that you don't always have to correct every misunderstanding.

In this scene from The Father, Anthony becomes convinced that events have happened which his daughter knows are not real. We can see her frustration begin to build as she tries to make sense of what he's saying.

For many caregivers, the instinct is to explain, correct, or convince.

Over time, some discover that focusing on the person's emotions can be more effective than focusing on the facts.

That doesn't mean agreeing with everything. It means recognizing that connection and reassurance are often more important than winning an argument about reality.

We recently discussed this scene in a short video:

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For those caring for someone with Alzheimer's, dementia, MCI, or another form of cognitive impairment:

How has your approach changed when a loved one becomes convinced of something that isn't happening?

What strategies have worked best for your family?