Should I come out to my friends!?
I (19) am a trans girl and I’ve been medically transitioning for a while since 14..but I still present as male I look very feminine but I try to tone it down as much as I can around most people in my life. None of my close friends know (they think I am a shy feminine looking straight guy )and I’ve been going back and forth on whether I should tell them.
Part of me wants to be honest because hiding such a big part of my life can be exhausting and I have only one gay friend to talk to without getting judged…At the same time, I’m worried about how they might react ( they are kinda conservative and some are muslims) Some of them have made comments in the past that make me unsure if they’d be supportive, and I don’t want to lose friendships that matter to me..
I don’t necessarily plan to come out publicly right now it’s not safe for me but I’ve been considering telling my friends..
For people who have been in a similar situation, what factors helped you decide whether to come out? Would you tell your friends, wait longer?
What should I do?
Posted Jun 11, 2026, 9:30 PM UTC