Odds of finding an attractive, smart, and social person?
When I started the AM process I noticed that the chances of meeting a person with all 3 of those qualities are extremely low. However, in day to day life I come across a decent amount of people who meet all 3 ( to some extent).
If someone is smart, they are socially awkward. If they are attractive then not very smart. If they end up being an amazing conversationalist, they may not be very pleasant to look at.
I understand that life is all about tradeoffs. I am sure none of us are 10/10. However, I am noticing a stark difference between those variables. I understand that we all place a minimum threshold on all 3 of those parameters. There is no point in marrying a person who is a 10 on looks scale but a 2 on intelligence and personality.
Maybe people who are quite balanced across all the 3 sections are more likely to be in relationships sooner. I ended up leaving AM and started dating.
Posted Jun 11, 2026, 10:28 PM UTC