*Directed towards POC* How do I make more POC friends as a mixed person?

I decided to past here because I'm a newbie!

Hi! I'm (f 20) and mixed-mixed, my mom is 75% black (darker skinned) making me about 30-40% idk genetic math is hard lol. I'm pretty white presenting as my skin tone and other "racial identifiers" look like my dad(Other than my really curly hair), but honestly I look like my mom's white twin😂 we say the printer ran out of ink.

I grew up in a predominantly white area but was soley raised by a black mom. I've always felt othered and in-between, even with looking so pale. All my friends are white. Mostly because my HS was a PWI and so is my college(I chose it because of major rather racial diversity). But I've always longed for a friendship with other POCs, or mixed people. I feel like my friends are supportive but don't fully understand the intricacies/ culture of being non white.

The things is I don't know how to find black friends because, I don't just want to be "hey want to be friends because your black". I want to make friends I have similarities with but I feel weird going up to people and talking to them because it feels like I'm being "profily". I don't have online friends either. I just don't know where to start. So my question is how do I make black/poc friends that have similar interests?

Posted Jun 11, 2026, 10:29 PM UTC

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