We let ableist women get away with too much casual ableism

I’m saying this as a diagnosed autistic girl that I’m sick and tired of all the shit I hear. I don’t know what the hell it is with my generation and the weird obsession it is to have an autistic partner, but I see men called out on it (rightfully so) and women not.

One of my biggest problems is how they don’t want an autistic guy, a lot of them I see want a “nerdy” guy. Which is fine to have that as a type, but being nerdy does not automatically mean you are autistic. There is overlap, yes but it isn’t conditional.

Another thing is that a lot of these people I have interacted with are ableist to a lot of autistic people as well. They only want the “nerdy” part of autism and hate everything else. I understand that when I stim I can be annoying and it’s fine to be annoyed with the noises I make, but to then turn around and say you want an autistic guy is weird. It’s like saying you like and want BLTS but whenever an opportunity comes to eat a BLT you only pick out the bacon and eat that. You don’t like BLTS, you like bacon. Some of these can be especially nasty to autistic women as well. It’s cute and quirky when a guy does it, but annoying when a girl does it.

I also hate when men do this as well but I see them getting called out a lot more so I was just making this post bcs of that. ✌️