My partner has chronic pain. What do you wish people would do for you?

My partner (20m) has been dealing with chronic pain his whole life. He has scoliosis , chiari malformation (which he has had surgery for ), POTS and now we’re worried about epilepsy.

He recently had a fall at work that resulted in a concussion and his health has taken a huge hit. He has been in much more pain and has had to take a job with more accommodations despite the benefits and pay of his last job because he cannot physically do a lot of the tasks that job required of him.

He has expressed being worried that he is overwhelming me with the amount of care he requires and that he tries to ask for less because of it. I want to make sure I am still caring for him and going above and beyond even when he’s not telling me exactly what he needs. I’m wanting to look into more medications, foods, activities and stretches that would help him with pain and symptoms.

My questions right now are :

Are there any suggestions that you have based on personal experience?

Any areas that your current/past partner was lacking in taking care of you?

What about things you wish people would STOP doing?

Any ways of approaching hard conversations that would be better?

Things you’re tired of hearing?

And then any advice about symptom management and pain management would be amazing as-well.
I’m just trying to do the best that I can for him, seeing him in pain breaks my heart and I want to take away as much stress as I can. I don’t want him to feel like when he comes to me for things it’s because he absolutely has to, I want most things to be already done for him without him having to ask.