Her supply seeking Compulsion
So I always managed finances/budgets for the family and over the 30 years, aside from her out of control spending, there wasnt much else i noticed. Then while going through the divorce process I exported 10 years of credit card and bank statements into excel and then sorted by date. Then i saw something that was shocking to me. First my wife is the subset, covert somatic narcissist. She is/was IMO and most people that met her, in attractiveness/sexuality body, face the whole package in the top 3% of women. So in our small town we have a walmart, food lion and Harris Teeter. Almost every day, every week, every year, she went to these stores 2 to 3 times a day, often spending less than $10 or even $2. Now all these stores have the same products and just the pain in the ass of parking and standing in line etc. makes it difficult for me to even go once a week. BUt for her it was like recharging her batteries. Someone holding a door for her, a guy giving her a second look, the cashier girl noticing her clothes or shoes....it was a safe space where she could get hits of supply. And since it was low grade supply, the charge didn't last long, so she had to go often. I think this truly shows their compulsion in a way that most people dont see. It still shocking to me. And I noticed as our relationship and me being supply slowed and stopped, these visits became more frequent.
Posted Jun 11, 2026, 10:37 PM UTC