31 [NB4A] #Online Ace-spectrum libidoist looking flirty and affectionate person!

[I'm pansexual and I like all body types and genders, but I'd prefer to avoid cis men.]

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Hi! I'm a 31-year-old non-binary person going through a somewhat complicated phase in my life. I'm recovering from a very severe Crohn's flare-up and have several limitations that prevent me from living my normal life for the next few months. I can't go out much or make many local friends, but during this time I've met a lot of people online, and Reddit has become "my refuge." I believe that connections are just as important whether they're online or in person, that there are no "online friendships," only "friendships," regardless of the communication method. On top of that, due to my physical limitations, I'm currently working remotely and spending a lot of time on the computer (in fact, I have a lot of work piled up from the four months I was hospitalized), so it would really help to find people who can brighten my days.

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Just so you know: I'm a non-monogamous (polyamorous) person, and honestly, I find it hard to distinguish between the boundaries of "friendship" and "romantic love." In general, I like being able to care for someone without having to worry about overstepping the boundaries of friendship. Practically speaking, I prefer to meet people who are open to romance, or at least to experiencing friendship intensely. And also people for whom distance isn't a problem. I like to be consistent and talk every day, and I'd like to find people on the same wavelength.

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I should also clarify that I'm a libidoist on the asexual spectrum, as contradictory as that may sound. That is to say: I have a very, very high libido, but I have no desire to have anything sexual with anyone. This doesn't apply to online contact: if it's via chat, we can flirt or get dirty without limits. I'm totally sex-positive and open to talking about kinks and sexuality in general. Since I'm mainly looking for online connections, it shouldn't be a problem, especially since I'm not looking for anything exclusive.

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I'm a philologist and I'm passionate about everything related to classical literature, history, and philosophy, but I also like fantasy and science fiction. My three favorite authors are Homer, Cervantes, and Mervyn Peake. I also love Nintendo (especially the Super Mario series, particularly Paper Mario 2), One Piece (I'm up to date with the manga), Iron Maiden (my favorite band since I was a teenager), and I've recently become hooked on WWE, which I watched as a kid, but since it's on Netflix, I haven't missed a single episode since the last Royal Rumble.

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I'm also learning to play the kalimba and I'm obsessed with SBC consoles, handhelds that can run emulators, and I've also become obsessed with Pokémon Champions and Pokémon Unbound.

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English isn't my native language, so please excuse me in advance if I sound a bit unnatural; I wrote this post in my language and ran it through Google Translate, although I can write shorter messages in English.

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In general, I prefer people who are open to being affectionate or flirty from the start. It makes everything easier for me and motivates me to respond quickly, even if we get to know each other a bit later and see what kind of connection we might have.

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After everything I've said, I want to make a few things clear.

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I don't believe in horoscopes or MBTI; it's fine if you believe in them, but don't try to pigeonhole me or treat me according to labels I don't believe in.

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I also don't believe in "attachment styles"; all that stuff about "avoidant attachment," "anxious attachment," and so on seems like nonsense to me, and it's currently being questioned by science if you do a quick search on Google Scholar. Therefore, don't put me in those kinds of boxes either; I hate it. It's fine if you believe in it, but don't try to force it on me.