67 [M4F] #NYC/LI - I am seeking a special friendship, but also outside the bedroom, but I am a bit unconventional. I am fine being your side piece, meaning we meet when our schedules align or if you travel to NYC on business regularly, I am fine with that too.

I'm a married tall in shape (dad body with slight stomach) well educated white male. Due to neck, back pain, nerve issues resulting from an auto accident years ago she no longer will have sex since it's very uncomfortable for her. She is ok if I have a sexual friendship with just two rules. ,One is that I cannot be having sex with someone she knows and secondly I must be discreet. That is why posting is the best way to meet to be careful whom I meet does not know us. I honestly ask her if it's ok to meet several times per year to confirm, just to make sure she has not changed her mind but she never has. However, it's always with the discretion caveat thrown in. Why am I posting. It's because finding something long term is not easy. Usually it's short term flings under 6 months and then the woman I meet goes on. Many are younger and want to try older for a variety of reasons. Some were older but felt guilty because they did not have permission but wanted more. It is honestly hard for longer term even tough I did have two which lasted in excess of a year.

Your age and reasons for wanting this are your. I am not one to pry. Ideally it can be an, ongoing connection, but ongoing can be several months or a few years as situations change. This will not be my first time as my bedroom due to her years of back and neck issues, has been dead for awhile. 

You can be single and wanting something until you find a new relationship, married and unsatisfied,, widowed, divorced or attached. I'm fine just making love, but am more on the take charge side if we keep meeting. However if you want it on equal footing that is fine with me. I love the balance between intensity and tenderness, control and care. Discretion is absolutely guaranteed from me. I will never interfere with your life, I expect the same. I can separate love from sexual friendship. 

If you’re longing for more than what you have at home or not have at all, plus, ready to build something meaningful and thrilling until you decide to end it, let’s talk. But going back to the title I talked about being very unconventional.

Either we meet at your hotel if you are from out of town, your place or a hotel room for a first meet. Once we are alone which I hope will be almost immediate, we'll both get totally undressed and start talking to get to know one another. It eliminates all the eye fucking and wondering because we have laid it all out on the line. I am not saying we'll even have sex and it could be another time, but it's so much purer and cuts out all the games.

I tend to doubt I will get a response, but if one does not ask you never know. Just remember, all of use were born naked so why are we uptight as a society about nudity.

Physically I am white, 6', 205, dad body, educated, clean shaven, non smoker, do not drink, still have most of my graying black hair. My sexual performance is fine as everything still works and I have never had a problem. I am wide open and unselfish in bed. Those details I can get into if you write to me. I think if we ever got that for you will not be disappointed by my performance and what you will be getting to play with.