When should I ask if provider is comfortable with mildly rough sex & COF?

Hey,

I’m a very straight forward person. I see escorts similar to visiting a masseuse or chiropractor but at the same time, I know there is a level of respect that must be conducted.

I travel a lot and often see new women, but what I’m looking for is pretty much the same. I value good oral skills, passionate session with some rough play (light choking, ass slapping), and to bust on face or body.

As mentioned, I don’t like wasting anyone’s time but I notice when I ask them straight forward on text, it’s often seen as an insult. I word it straight up and just ask, and don’t expect anything going into a session because I want it all communicated before it starts.

But at same time I can understand asking for specifics can put people at risk & also some acts can be seen as degrading by some women. I’m willing to pay nicely and tip, but I wonder what best approach is for asking?

Verify before session, text, call, or maybe ask in person and if it’s an L, just have a normal session?