i never want to talk to my mother, or pick up the phone, but she insists. my father never calls at all and seems to forget my existence

she is so needy and demanding "i thought about calling today but i figured you wouldn't pick up..." "please call" etc...

this is the woman who used to come into the bathroom while i was showering and laugh and tell me my vagina is ugly. this is the woman that used to come into my bedroom every day at the same hour, on the dot, and pretend to have amnesia so that she could claim to have "forgotten" that i asked her not to throw away my favorite stuffed animal, book, blanket *insert beloved possession here* everyday. it was the same thing "did you say i could throw away your stuffed animal? no? oh i forgot. can i throw away your blanket tomorrow?"

now shes super needy and clingy, calling me her best friend and saying how she misses talking to me. what do i say? how do i navigate this? what do i do? (don't JUST say no contact, offer a plethora of advice if you have it)

as for my father, he doesn't give a shit. an alcoholic who slept through 70% of my life when he wasn't physically attacking me the other 30% precent, raving about how he wanted to kill me, or how I was going to kill him, that i was giving him so much stress that he was going to crash the car in the midst of a heart attack and kill all of us. he simply doesn't call. the other day, my roomate didn't pay her rent, and i covered her to avoid having it sent to collections. i asked if he could cover my student loan that month, and he sent the money then said "wow you never talk to me" i was furious. i said "actually YOU never talk to me" and he just laughed and said "I don't want to bother you". end of convo.

i don't even know how to begin addressing this. there is such a lack of balance between the ways she is obsessively, overwhelmingly present, and the ways he is just nowhere to be found.