Will most guys be disappointed by my limits?

I am not submissive at all, I’m not sure if that’s a disappointment to most guys.

I have a hard no against neck-grabbing/choking, hitting, slapping, head-pushing during blowjobs, name-calling.

I’m open to but not at all aroused by being pinned/held down/tied, spanked (I let them if they want but it’s just eh to me).

I feel like guys expect or assume I’m submissive for some reason, maybe because I’m small/petite which dominant guys seem to like, or because I present traditionally feminine.

Does this limit the number of guys who will be into me? Will most guys be disappointed by my nature?