My Asian mother is so strict about me wanting to go out with friends
For context I am 18F. Recently me and my friends have been wanting to go out shopping. I had to ask my parents about being allowed to go out. My mother screamed at me saying that I am 'asking for too much freedom' and that I am a bad influence for my younger brother who is going to ask to go out with his friends too. She says that she wasn't allowed to go out when she was my age with her friends and neither was my dad which means I can't and apparently 'the world is too dangerous now'. I told her how I felt scared to ask them to do anything and she just said I am making excuses and even thinks that I am doing too much by even buying gifts for my friends. My friends don't need to fear asking their parents to do anything and they would nicely explain if they said no. We all did a small gift exchange recently and I had to buy a gift for them and I got screamed at then but she still let me buy something. And also, before my friends all meet up, I would be going to a friends house who is my best friend whom my mother knows her and her mother so this isn't simply about trust. I said that she is way stricter than other parents (I could write a whole list on how) but she said that there is a reason for why she acts so strict. I am going to university soon and I fear that my parents will be just as strict.
Posted Jun 12, 2026, 12:42 PM UTC