how would you approach this life decision?

Ok so I won’t go into the major detail as it’ll be a short novel given this is a situation I have been dealing with for 2+ years.

I was a confident, independent woman, but right now I feel like I’ve lost myself and I am about to dig a hole I can’t get out of.

My partner (who is 20 years older) moved us to another country (from EU to EU) as his business was going to fail, he didn’t want to lose everything in our country and wanted to make a new life here. I am a freelancer so this worked fine and our daughter (4) found an amazing school where she is truly flourishing.

However, we have quickly realised that my partner won’t be able to find a job anywhere near the salary of what he is earning now. I have had to be main bread winner for over a year (my salary is NOT great) while he put all his money into his business, which every month he says will be closing - although it is still running and as a freelancer I’ve been at as much uncertainty as him.

He is now considering work that will not pay our bills or keep our daughter in the school she’s in. Alternatives are not great. He’s considering a job in an industry that is failing already, pele willingly do the jobs when they’re young, single, independent, he is 50+ and has major responsibilities.

My family are visiting and for the first time im realising how much I need them. I need the connection and I need the support with having a young child and working full time.

He is reluctant to move back and because I am so worn down with thinking our lives will be over every month I just don’t know how to make the call. I’m scared to move us back and be making the wrong decision for my daughter.

I just want to add - i recently brought up that we needed to marry or get something legal in place. He didn’t want to do this. It makes me wonder how he expects someone to live a life with this much stress, financially drain themselves (and put themselves at risk because there are no alternative jobs here for me either) and feel totally alone out here but still not have the commitment from him. He said ‘a child is a bigger commitment; what more do I want’. He’s a great dad I cannot take that away from him, but the more I write, the more stupid I feel.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

FYI I have posted this elsewhere before, my situation hasn’t changed much since then, I’ve been in total freeze mode, but it helps to vent out and reassess the situation. Also I considered moving out to my own place with my daughter here but lo and behold I can’t afford it.