Stop Lecturing Disabled and Ill People About Sabr

I see many posts here from disabled people and people suffering from illnesses who are going through incredibly difficult situations and looking for some comfort. Instead of showing empathy, some people immediately respond with things like, “Have more patience” or “You love the dunya too much.”
And then there are also those people who say things like, “If I were in your situation, I would never complain. I would just have sabr.”
You are delusional.
Unless you’ve lived with a disability, chronic illness, or a serious health condition yourself, you have no idea how difficult it can be. It’s easy to talk when you’re not the one living with the pain, limitations, fear, and struggles every single day.
I have an illness myself, and I would never look at someone in a worse situation and tell them, “You love the dunya too much” or “Just have sabr and stop being weak.” That’s not empathy, and it’s not helpful advice.
Some people here act as if they’re better Muslims simply because they haven’t been tested in the same way. That’s arrogance. You don’t know how you would react until Allah tests you. Many people imagine they would be strong, but the reality of severe illness or disability is often far harder than they can comprehend.
Having sabr is important, but so is compassion. If someone is suffering, show them kindness, make du’a for them, and support them. Not every person needs a lecture.
If you don’t understand someone’s pain, don’t pretend that you do.

I see many posts here from disabled people and people suffering from illnesses who are going through incredibly difficult situations and looking for some comfort. Instead of showing empathy, some people immediately respond with things like, “Have more patience” or “You love the dunya too much.”
And then there are also those people who say things like, “If I were in your situation, I would never complain. I would just have sabr.”
You are delusional.
Unless you’ve lived with a disability, chronic illness, or a serious health condition yourself, you have no idea how difficult it can be. It’s easy to talk when you’re not the one living with the pain, limitations, fear, and struggles every single day.
I have an illness myself, and I would never look at someone in a worse situation and tell them, “You love the dunya too much” or “Just have sabr and stop being weak.” That’s not empathy, and it’s not helpful advice.
Some people here act as if they’re better Muslims simply because they haven’t been tested in the same way. That’s arrogance. You don’t know how you would react until Allah tests you. Many people imagine they would be strong, but the reality of severe illness or disability is often far harder than they can comprehend.
Having sabr is important, but so is compassion. If someone is suffering, show them kindness, make du’a for them, and support them. Not every person needs a lecture.
If you don’t understand someone’s pain, don’t pretend that you do.