Am I an a**hole

Just called it off with my gf of 3 years. She assumed I was going to propose and I did too. I’d looked at rings, and told my soon-to-be brother in law I was going to.

Until I watched them throw a grad party for their youngest son. Who they adored and it was just everything I’m not. They put on a show for everything they do and are really mean to my gf while they worship their son.

Without boring details, it was a really bad day. My gf was bullied by her mother the entire day, she is always bullied by her and really the whole. Like mean girls and shes Lindsey Lohan.

I couldn’t watch it anymore - I told her what I saw and probably came on a bit strong with my dislike of her family. She came back with “its the best its ever been with me and them”. I decided to end things based on that. We talked for one hour, havent talked since. Dated for 3 years.

I sort of always knew, and I’m not sure how much I liked her even at times, while others were good. But I never told her those hard truths until the very end. I was just sleep walking until that point. If you take the time let me know, I have a lot of guilt on my conscious. Honesty helps - thanks.