Negotiating friendship with someone who’s hellbent on convincing me that I’m not ‘Christian-ing’ right.

Hello all, newbie here. First, I apologize if this comes off as more of a vent than a question. I really don’t know where else to share this.

Backstory:

I was born and raised in a very conservative Christian community (not from the US, but my community shares a lot of similarities with American evangelicalism).

Although I’d started questioning Eternal Conscious Torment as a child, I never really knew where to even start since dissenting theologies were pretty much non-existent in my community. The many questions that I had, compounded by the hypocrisy and harm I saw in churches have put me off from Christianity for pretty much all my adult life. Although my faith in Jesus remained, the map that I was given as a child just never sat right with me. So I pretty much distanced myself from the church & our Christian community.

After going through a pretty devastating loss, I’ve been trying to work on my relationship with God again, but this time in a way that feels true to me. So I recently discovered universalism and have started exploring it. Even though I’m only starting out and still have a very surface-level understanding of this theology, I felt like this might be the right place to post this.

I’ve identified as a progressive Christian since I was a teenager and have always been pretty critical of the fundamentalism in my community. I have this best friend whom I’ve known for over 10 years. Although we’ve always shared very similar political beliefs, I guess we never really went deep into our theological beliefs because what’s been happening lately has completely shattered the connection I thought we once had.

She recently experienced a spiritual awakening (a very hyper-charismatic experience, which I personally have my own reservations about from watching my mother’s experience with religious psychosis growing up). But I didn’t want to express any doubts and tried to remain open, despite my trauma (a lot to unpack here but it’ll be way too long). But here’s what’s really bothering me: I can’t help but feel like she’s been treating me like some sort of ‘project’ rather than a friend. Every theological discussion we have (although civil) will lead to warnings about ‘false teachings’. And the ‘revelations’ she’s had (such as demons claiming the souls of LGBT folks, etc.) have left a very bad taste in my mouth. So, while we still text pretty much every day, I’ve been distancing myself a bit because I don’t really know how to connect with her anymore, because the attitude has been “I know the truth because God revealed it to me, you’re just misled”.

With her approaching me with your typical arrogant fundamentalist jargon like ‘worldly’, ‘lost’, etc., I feel like the sense of camaraderie that was once there has completely disappeared. It no longer feels like we’re conversing on common ground. I do love her a lot, but I no longer recognise her. I already felt very isolated in my community because of my beliefs, so it’s especially heartbreaking to see one the few people I thought I could trust displaying the same type of behaviour that chased me away from the church in the first place.

So, my question is, how do you deal with friendships/relationships like this? Is there anyone here who’s had similar experiences? Plus, any tips, book recommendations etc., to help me through my rediscovery journey would really help.