The “law of attraction” should work for marriage

For those unfamiliar, the law of attraction is the idea that positive thoughts and mindset can help you attract positive outcomes in life, while negative thoughts may hold you back.

So, in the case of marriage, the law of attraction would mean that if you think positively, visualize the kind of spouse you want, and maintain a strong mindset and optimism, you are more likely to attract the spouse you want.

Allah says in a hadith Qudsi: “I am just as My slave thinks I am” [Sahih al-Bukhari 7405], meaning Allah deals with His servant according to his expectation of Him.

We also believe that a righteous spouse is Rizq from Allah and that everything ultimately depends on His Qadr.

Also Allah says in Quran "And He will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allāh - then He is sufficient for him." [Surah At-Talaq: 3]

The question then becomes: what is the role of Asbab? Is it just the formality of “tying the camel,” or does it require continued effort?

IMO, based on the above points, doing the bare minimum effort should be enough, you don’t need to exhaust yourself. Focus more on being a good Muslim and strengthening your connection with Allah. Have Tawakkul in Him, your spouse will come your way in due time, in an expected manner.

What do you think? Share your experience if any.