On manifesting the logically impossible

I’ve been applying manifestation to a specific person for over a year (currently 10 months no-contact), and have got a couple of massive blind spots I’d love your perspective on:

1. I have an 90% chance of relocating to Italy soon for a major career transition. Instantly, my mind went to work building a massive 'logical' case for why my manifestation is now impossible (How can an LDR work when physical touch matters? How would a BTech background even fit in Italy? I smoke now, they used to hate it, etc.). Am I using this upcoming career pivot as a convenient, rational excuse to avoid the deeper self-concept work of simply feeling irreplaceable in love? How do we stop our minds from weaponizing new life circumstances to protect us from vulnerability?
2. When you’ve had on-and-off results for a long time, it can feel like you’re standing in the exact same place you started. After a year, how do you differentiate between actually shifting into a truly detached, relaxed state versus just being exhausted and numbing out in fear or avoidance?

Would love to hear your thoughts on navigating these from a 3rd person perspective and provide insights i might be missing!