No intimacy for years and so sad

No intimacy for years and so sad

I had never heard of this before but when someone here suggested I looked it up immediately. No compliments shows of affection hugs kisses holding hands sex and can never explain why he just curls up and does his own thing and I’m like a roommate. I have watched him like a hawk so thee has never been an affair. I’ve even accused him of being closeted gay. He is more affectionate with his family and it drives me crazy. I’ve been a stay at home mom and take care of everything but mowing grass. I have some medical issues and no way to leave as also I’ve played the everything is so great to family and they’d take his side. I got him to read about this and he says yeah sounds like me but refuses to even take a second to work on it. I got a grunt out of him and he rolled over and went to sleep. Anyone ever deal with this and make it through? Really need advice.

OP So im 59f my husband 60m been married 26 years. I can count on my fingers how many times we’ve had s\\\*x since our daughter was born 25 years ago. We’ve talked til I’m blue in the face about no hugs kisses compliments and he always promises to change. There’s no affair I keep close watch but I did catch him doing the deed to porno once. My self esteem is shot but I haven’t worked since our child was born and now I have some medical issues that need insurance coverage and feel stuck. I did buy a vibrator a couple of months ago but I actually feel guilty using it. What can I do? Need advice. WHY DELETED?