I’m a feminist, but I’m genuinely curious

As the title says I’m a feminist. I’m not here to call any of you stupid or misogynistic don’t worry, but I am interested in hearing why you’re anti-feminist and to engage in some kind of discussion. From my perspective, *actual* feminism is literally about equality for everyone and in the past five years or so I’ve seen a lot more feminists include men into that discussion. I agree that men’s issues are not talked about enough. I don’t believe men shouldn’t be allowed to be emotional. I don’t believe a woman should be allowed to get away with abusing her partner. I don’t believe that men can’t be victimized - I’ve seen it firsthand. Just recently one of my good male friends broke down to me after he had been sexually assaulted by a vile, gross and utterly trash woman and I just held him all night until we fell asleep. Hell I myself was abused by a woman. But I just don’t see how any of this the fault of feminism. A lot of the clips I see on this sub are from those stupid damn redpill podcasts where they bring on the absolute dumbest “how did you open the door to the studio” kind of people to say batshit insane things so that it can go viral. It’s not representative of feminism as a whole the same way incels aren’t representative of men. But what do you guys think?