Poke bowl with angel hair pasta for dinner!

I’ve been dating my (23F) boyfriend (41M) for two years and it started out great but I’m so confused about where we stand right now.

He never was that touchy feely with me but before we started dating he would say the sweetest things to me, like nice job on this spreadsheet (he obviously wanted to spread my sheets) and the cookies you make for the office taste really good (he obviously wanted to taste my cookie).

But two years ago we became officially boyfriend girlfriend and those sweet nothings stopped and he barely looks at me.

We work together and we aren’t supposed to date our coworkers so we’ve kept it a secret at work, so I can’t kiss him and love him in the office. But sometimes we eat lunch at the same time in the break room so I know he still loves me. It just hurts so much to sharing a tuna salad sandwich and nothing more 😭

Ok but here is the real problem rn - I don’t see him outside of work anymore. He used to come over to my place every few weeks but around the time I had my dosages adjusted he stopped coming around as often. Now it’s only once every 90 days when I’m waiting for my Walgreens refill to be ready.

He also has never once acknowledged our relationship. I haven’t met any of his family or friends and have never been to his house. I mean he has already met my friends Astronaut Steve and Cowgirl Ruby. When I do text him to come over like on my birthday or for a ghost tea party he never responds.

I’m terrified to say anything to him in person about this because the same thing happened with my last boyfriend, and when I brought it up he said he “doesn’t even know me” and we “met one time at the Walmart checkout a year ago” and I’m “seriously crazy”.

Idk chat, what do I do? I love him more than life but he acts like he barely knows me.

My secret boyfriend acts like I don’t even exist