45 M4F #PST - Looking for conversation and mutual obsession...

I really enjoy dialogue…I say something, you respond. You say something I make a comment, we go off on a tangent because it reminded me of a time at the place with a friend. The kind that doesn’t come to an abrupt halt constantly with “IDK, u?”. The kind that meanders. “Yes, and…”. All day. Everyday. That doesn’t mean we’re gonna tell each other every single intimate detail of our lives from the jump. It means we can converse about our days, nights, likes, dislikes, the simple things, in generalities or with some things redacted at first, then in more detail as we go along and build trust. Let’s be friends before anything else. From there, who knows, but first things first.

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Here are some of the things that are important to me:

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Time & effort – I have time during the days and evenings to devote to this. Please be the same. I’m mostly WFH so I’m available to message throughout the day, and for calls (video and audio only) regularly. Please be in a similar situation (WFH, SAHM, home business). If we get busy for a bit, we’ll always let each other know ahead of time. The goal, when we get there, is to be mutually obsessed with each other. Good mornings first thing as we wake up. Good night’s without fail. We will be a priority to each other. All the little silly and simple things of the day we’ll share without even needing to be asked. Extroverts definitely welcome! Talk/message my ears/eyes off. I ask a lot of questions but I don't want that to be the only way you share. I want you to be excited about sharing your day with me and being genuinely interested in me and my day. I miss having someone to miss and having someone miss me when we do get busy.

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Being a parent – I’m one, and I relate much better to other parents with kids in school. Our kids are one of our biggest of joys, and I want to be able to share that with and you with me once we build up trust and get to that point. We’ll give each other advice, share experiences and we’ll celebrate each others important moments. We’ll also help each other bear the frustrations, anxieties, and headaches that arise from being a parent.

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Dead bedroom – It’s where I’m at, please be the same. Not cake eating, not just looking for strange. Intimacy is damn near a foreign concept to your SO. You've given the effort, you've had the conversations, the reciprocation and care is just no longer there from them. We're both on the starved end of it, not by our own choice. But on the rare occasions that it does come to life, we'll share about that as well, and cheer for each other.

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Experienced – You’re not just lurking and/or new totally new to affairs. You've had an affair of some kind before. You’re not afraid of the feels and all that it entails. You know what it takes to make it work. Something special, something that will last. You’re not careless, with safety or feelings. We’ll protect each other always.

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Not the worst – If you like anything about the current presidential administration, just no. You care about people, not just the ones that look like you. You like to think, investigate, learn, experience new and different things.

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If you are a big believer in astrology or tarot, we may not be a great fit.

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A bit about me;

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Jack of all trades – I can talk intelligently about a lot of things. In depth about a number of them (the rest I can make up in true Dad fashion). I’m a wealth of facts, useful and otherwise. So let the convo wander. Teach me something. I’ll do my best to teach you something as well. Let’s talk hobbies, media, drinks (you're someone who has a go-to cocktail), fashion, pop culture, classic movies, cooking, the stuff our kids force upon us, whatever happens to be on your mind.

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Communication – I like a lot of it. Probably an unreasonable amount. If I get busy for a few hours, I’ll always let you know (please be the same). Otherwise, expect to hear from me all day, and into the evenings, everyday. I’m not a night owl, but I’ll try to be around as much as possible. Even if there’s a bit of a delay, I will always respond (be the same). Messages, calls, pics/videos. All of it as regularly as we can when we get there; we’ll take the time to build up to that point.

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Physical – It’ll take time to get to pics; they will not be upfront. We’re gonna see if we even get along first before anything else. That said I’m 5'9" & hwp. I work out as often as I can but I'm by no means a gym rat. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments at the pic stage. Especially my eyes, lips & skin, so I got that going for me, which is nice. I've got no ink or piercings. Just an FYI.

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I’d like you to be hwp too. No height cocnerns either way. You take pride in your appearance but it's not what defines you. Painted nails and toes and such. You're confident. Less goth and more girl next door. When we get there, I want us to really enjoy each other. I will appreciate you, adore you. You will never want for attention or compliments. Show off to me.

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I like a flirt. Not just with me but also in general. I'll encourage you to be so...you enjoy male (maybe also female) attention. But at the end of it all, we are still only for each other (spouses aside of course). We'll share stories. Sexy ones...exes, current SOs, cuz it's fun...and a bit of a turn on. I want to be able to talk openly about those things when we get there. For us to be excited to share them, to listen, celebrate and enjoy.

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The sooner we can jump off Reddit chat, the better. It’s just easier. I’m using Signal, so make sure that’s ok for the down the line. As the title notes, I’m in the PST. Timezones matter, so be in the US and no further than the CST. I’m an 80’s and 90’s kid, It’d help if you are too. It makes it easier if we can get each other’s references & have similar experiences (remember the 80’s when child safety seats were…non-existent? Mom and Dad smoked while they drove, at restaurants & while they slept? Between the concussions and secondhand smoke it’s a miracle we’re still alive.

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Drop me a line, tell me about yourself. If something really spoke to you in this post, tell me what it was. Can’t wait to hear from you.