Conflicted About Dating/Intimacy After Divorce

I’m mid 30s m and been divorced about a year, separated 6 months before that. Overall in a much better space mentally and physically. It was a pretty mutual divorce, not like one of us leaving abruptly.

My ex and I share an amazing young kid and split custody, and we both are getting a long very well, no major fights since the divorce.

She had a new boyfriend a few months later, which was weird at first, but I’m fine with it now and happy for her.

For me, I dated briefly last year and earlier this year, but nothing serious came out of it. I don’t think I was ready, in hindsight.

Now that it’s summer, a part of me wants to date and have intimacy. It’s been a while since I’ve had sex, which isn’t the end of the world, but sometimes it bothers me.

I’ve tried apps but hate them so removed them again. I want to be open to something natural in the real world, but I don’t try very hard. I see an attractive woman at a cafe, but don’t flirt for approach.

Part of that is I’m introverted and shy at first, but I’m pretty good with people in general, not socially awkward too much. I just…don’t really care?

It’s a weird feeling for me. When I was younger, I had a high sex drive and was always trying to get laid, but I think I’ve matured out of that.

I‘m in pretty good shape and active, eat healthy, feel a libido/sex drive, but I’m just not trying to make stuff happen like I used to.

I will note I’m bipolar and on a mood stabilizer which can lower libido technically, but I still have a drive and satisfy myself every day.

Could this be just a sign of not being ready still? It just seems back and forth, I have days/weeks where I want to date/romance, and days/weeks where I don’t really care either way. I don’t think it’s a bipolar thing, I’ve been very stable for years on meds.

Thanks!