Muslim girl here, I’m questioning Islam and wondering what made some of youse become ex-Muslims

A little about me, I guess I am Muslim even though I don’t practise Islam, I stoped praying years ago the most I do is fast in Ramadan and wear the hijab not because I want to, my parents make me and if I ever take it off that will be the end of me and my families entire reputation.

Tbh I do believe in Allah and the prophets and most things in the Quran. But there’s things that make me hateeeee Islam and wonder is it true such as women obligatory to cover while men don’t, men having 4 wife’s thats kinda fucking crazy, little things these dumb scholars say such as no music, no art, no perfumes, no makeup, which btw are all things I love and adore.

Things like praying, fasting, no alcohol, no sex before marriage, donating to the poor, lgbtq+ (sorry don’t kill me I still respect gay people) are things I understand why there’s ruling for them whether I like it or not but the other things I just mentioned make no senseeeee at all to me on why they would be haram.

So is it Islam thats bad or how it’s being interpreted that’s wrong because I have seen debates about how men are using Hadiths to control women and to make things like perfumes and music haram even though it’s not mentioned in the Quran. Some say hijab isn’t even obligatory.

Idk I’m just yapping but I wanna hear real life experience from the other side, do u guys think Islam is entirely wrong or maybe it’s being used and abused by bad people who twist the religion to oppress women. Tell me your stories it will be really helpful thank you!!!