Friendships are tricky

Hi, so I’ve become wary making friends because multiple times, good friends have developed feelings for me and I haven’t reciprocated. They then got abusive and weird with me, and I would have to basically end the friendship after I thought we had been good friends. I’m lesbian so I basically don’t have male friends anymore — which is fine — but it’s also happened with female friends.

It’s gotten to the point where I am very hesitant about showing affection to friends at all. The irony is that I hate being touched and I’m not touchy feely at all. But I like being friendly and genuine with my compliments. I don’t want to be mean or rude, but it’s like I can’t win. I also basically don’t date anymore. Any suggestions?