The Things I Don't See People Talking About?

Hello 👋🏻 I made this reddit to seek community with like-minded individuals and I wanted to first start by saying porn really F-ing sucks. I have been seeking input from afar for years in the reddit anti-porn and love stories from those impacted by the addiction side of it.. and as someone who has ONLY seemed to have ever found herself in relationships with SA/PA, the impact on my life is HUGE.

Everyone talks about the extremes of it--normalizing rape and targeting children.. the violence.. but no one ever sits down and shares just how FUCKED up it makes us. The standards it creates in bodies, the expectations people expect for sex and intimacy... how selfishness is taught through porn and sex work. Selfishness also being a social norm in an act that takes at least two? The extremes touch on how porn is void of consent, but when I talk about consent with people? They don't seem to understand how YOU DO NOT KNOW who the person on the other side is, what they are thinking, how they are feeling. And when I bring up hentai? Which also doesn't get much attention at first glance. It is the same crap of standards and when humans try to mimic in forms of cosplay/dress-up (since this is the standard for the internet now that we are in an age of online adult entertainers), ​it further imprints those expectations and desires to be met by everyday people. (Also a side note that most anime girls are schoolgirls which further imprints that children are 👍🏻 to be used as material).

I am sick of hating myself and the body I was born in because of porn, because of the people who *say* they care but normalize porn. There is so much more but I will stop there and maybe add or edit later. First time openly talking about this so 🤞🏻. It has made me very lonely though. How does everyone make or keep friends? This is so important to me it is like politics and I have basically no friends who are against porn like I am. The people who don't care or shrug it off like it isn't a big deal just make me feel like they are part of the problem and I need PEOPLE to CARE about this thing that has shook my core. 32F here with a history of assaults, a toxic upbringing expectancy, and struggling to find her way in a world that is obsessed with making women sex objects.