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AITA for Breaking up the Friend Group?

Hey I'm 21M (AA) had two friends (Made up Names) Jayson (M19 Asian) & Kayla (F18 Irish) (I Promise this Matters)

We have all been friends since COVID we called every night on group FaceTime and played Roblox, normal things Teenagers at the time did.

Of course as every teenager with our undeveloped brains, made all kinds of jokes that were every "Ist" and "Phobic" out there.

As we all got older Jayson went off to College so our digital time together ceased. So it ended up just being Kayla and I.

Kayla and I got closer and with that came very concerning comments.

Here are direct quotes from Kayla (As an Adult)

"I don't support that gay shit"
"Trans people are like ew get out of my restroom"
"Megan thee stallion is such a sl*t she should get shot again"
"Those Indians are always scamming people"
"Gay people are literal bottom of the barrel"
"there's always these ghetto people outside I'm so glad trump is president"

Here's the Kicker. Kayla has a Trans Brother. Jayson is Gay. I Am Also Gay.
Kayla reads Yaoi.

I texted Jayson and told him I no longer wanted to be friends with Kayla. To stand for the things I stand for while tolerating a person who says things like stated above and more felt like a huge contradiction in my conviction.

I've brought this up to Jayson many times before, sometimes covered as jokes, so he is aware. Jayson says he had no clue this was happening.

I was honest with Jayson, I told him being cordial with this person makes him look like he is Coinciding with Bigotry. (Jayson claims he didn't know which I call total bullshit) Jayson has been on group calls with us and has had a group chat spanning six years.

I haven't heard from Jayson ever since. I felt like I did nothing wrong, Jayson still is posting with her despite me telling him everything. AITA?

Posted Jun 12, 2026, 11:46 PM UTC

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