How long is a normal amount of time to be sad about a friendship? Asking for me.

Hi everyone,

A few years ago, I became really close friends with a woman I worked with. When I got married, she was actually one of the witnesses at my wedding - that’s how close we were.

A few months before the friendship seemingly ended, I brought up some feelings I had about a situation between us. It wasn’t anything huge or what I thought would be friendship ending. It was just something that hurt me and that I wanted to talk through with her. I never got a response. (It was also the first time I’d ever raised an issue in our friendship 🥲)

After a period of not really talking, we started speaking again and agreed we’d catch up and talk everything through, but it never happened. Everything seemed normal, but when I reached out to check in, she just never replied. I’ve tried to call and text a few times since, but still nothing.

At this point, I accept that the friendship is over. Knowing her, she’s very avoidant when it comes to difficult conversations. We’ve talked before about how quickly she’s cut people off in the past, which feels a little ironic now that I’m on the receiving end of it. I’m just not holding onto hope of her reaching out to me ever again.

I’ve never had a lot of close friends, so this has been quite difficult.

I really miss her. I miss our friendship, and I still wonder how she’s doing. It’s been almost 2 years, and I’m surprised by how much it still hurts.

Give me all the advice. I just want to grieve this and move on. I’m sick of being sad.