Menopause, low ferritin, depression meds

I am a 55 yr old woman, still bleeding, not menopausal yet. My periods are starting to be two months apart now so I am hopeful that I am nearing the end. Here is my issue. I have been seeing a dr because I have had heavy bleeding and my ferritin has been really low for a couple of years now. It is 5-7. I take iron but it is not going up. I had an ultrasound and I do have a fibroid, so that is part of the heavy bleeding. I am also overweight, so that can make bleeding heavier as well. She does not suggest any other help for me. I asked about iron infusion but she says I am not a candidate. I am incredibly exhausted, have no interest in anything, no motivation, feel almost removed from life. My hair is falling out. I have bad brain fog and heart palpitations. I come home from my mentally exhausting job and just want to crawl into bed (and sometimes do!) It is so hard to find a dr around here. Would you try another one? Can anyone actually help me figure out how much is my ferritin, how much is menopause, how much is stress? Should I be on HRT- would that help? I am also on 300mg of Effexor ,100 mg of Wellbutrin, and 150 mg of Quetiapine for the past 6 years after having a breakdown. The meds helped incredibly with my brain fog at first, but don’t seem to help now. Anyone been in my shoes and got feeling better??