I 19F am having trust issues with my boyfriend 19M, because he is a pathological liar. I love him. How can fix it?

I (19 F) met my boyfriend (19M) my freshman year of college. When we met he told me a lot of things about himself that I later found out were very untrue. He told me that he spent his summers at culinary school, he drove in a formula 4 series. And if he wanted to he could wrestle for Portugal’s Olympic team in the future. He told me many other things but those are the brunt of the lies he told me when I first met him. There were things he told me that were also true. But he uses these lies to act like an expert in many things he actually just had a passion for. I was very skeptical of all of these things from the beginning but every time I brought them up he would become defensive about the fact that I actually thought he was lying. Only six months into our relationship did we fight and I really felt something was off about his “credentials” did I fully confront him. At first he yelled at me like he usually did and only when I really pushed it did I finally get the truth out.

After that he felt horrible and told me that it was because he was insecure… etc. and promised never to lie to me ever again. However it’s hard for me to trust someone who spent six months spinning a web of lies about their life to make themselves look cool.

I have really bad trust issues now with him. Whenever he tells a cool or funny story about his life I ask myself whether it really happened. I love him but something is seriously wrong with our relationship because of my extreme lack of trust.

He lied to me, my friends, my parents when he met them. And it’s just embarrassing. I don’t know what I should do now. Please help.

Posted Jun 12, 2026, 11:52 PM UTC

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