was told "I never got to know your deadname" when dumping my (now ex-) bf

broke up in good terms, but he was very sad and all that (me too). when we were done talking we hugged and he said "it just occurred to me, I never got to know your deadname" I was flabbergasted (at the start of the relationship I made it very clear I didn't want him to know, he even saw me visibly very distressed in an instance where I thought he had heard it), told him it had nothing to do with how close we had been, he said he knew, and that it's not like he wanted to know, but that it just popped up in his mind.

I'm tired of this shit I will never be a normal human being. I can't even break up with someone and have it be normal, I'll always be some fucked up third sexed (or female) thing to wonder about