Could he be DL?

Partner is 40M, I am a woman.

We’ve been together for 9 years.

Before me, he was a virgin and never had sex because the women he would try to have sex with, he would lose his erection. He said he had performance anxiety and believed some of it was coming from porn.

So he stopped watching porn and it improved but he mainly can still really only have sex with me from the back. He can finally go on top of me now (this took years) but usually goes soft with me on top.

He said he never really had spontaneous erections even as a teen or young adult and watching porn alone couldn’t really get him hard.

A couple years ago he started twerking in a joking way when we were cleaning or doing housework and now it’s like an actual thing with him.

He will hop on top of me in the bed and grind on me, pretend to “ride me” in cowgirl style, put his butt in my face and bend over. I’ll get behind him and pretend to penetrate him from behind.

He gets very hard from this.

I have said things like “you want to be filled up with my cum” and “ride my dick” and he goes along with it.

He has used my butt plug and said he would be open to getting some lube to try pegging. We had a dildo and he sucked it but we didn’t try putting it in.

He said he doesn’t think he’s gay or bi but would be open to maybe talking to a man or letting a man grab his ass to see how it makes him feel.

He said he didn’t want to really try that though because even if he “didn’t find out he’s bi or gay” he has no interest in living a “gay life” or going out to be with a man. So he said he would just try things with me.

He said he would be open to posting ass pictured on Reddit in the gay forums or sending pictures to men for money as long as his face isn’t in it.

His previous porn was a lot of BDSM, ass, and some weird stuff like violent stuff towards women. He also looked up a lot of women eating a man’s butt stuff.

Do you think he could be DL?