A relationship might not ever be for me? 🤷🏾‍♂️ (Black woman please respond honestly however brutal it may be.)

This been bothering me most of my life. My penis only 5.2 inches erect with 4.5 girth, and I’ve only been with one woman because of it. Coming from the ghetto, you can only imagine how brutal conversations around size be. Most of the women I like always say stuff like “it can’t be too big or too small,” but then turn around and say the comfortable size for most women is no less than 6 inches.

Right now I’m talking to this beautiful Black woman, and I genuinely like her. But from the music she listens to, the shows she watches, and even the hypothetical conversations we have, she makes it clear being “small” is a dealbreaker. She’s literally said stuff like, “I’d cheat if a man was too small.”

I haven’t even mentioned my size yet, but in my head I already feel like it’s over before it even starts. Cause realistically, if a woman already telling you what she likes and you know you don’t fit that… what am I supposed to think?

And what really messed me up mentally is seeing women leave genuinely good men for men who treated them worse just because the sex was better or the guy was bigger. I’ve seen dudes who loved hard, provided, stayed loyal, did everything right… and still got left behind over something physical they couldn’t control. Some of them never really recovered from it.

That’s the fear sitting in the back of my mind now. That maybe no matter how good of a man I become, this one thing will always disqualify me to the women I truly want. So now I’m sitting here feeling like maybe I should just break it off before I get too attached. I want her to have what she feels she deserves, even if I can’t give it to her.

And that’s the part that hurts the most, because I genuinely yearn for love and a relationship… but sometimes it feels like this one insecurity outweighs everything else about me