My (32F) older coworker (54M) invited me to films, called it a first date 2 times jokingly. I asked what he meant, he said he likes me a lot but we are impossible. I said okay but he still wants answer?

We are coworkers and he has been flirting with me for more than a year. He never made a move and I thought he was just a flirty personality. He has been asking about my love life a lot, after my seperation I was not dating yet. One day casually I said I had been to a date, he said he has been on a date too which went well and I said nice, good for you. And he immediately proposed to see a movie together. I said yes and we went. Movie, game and dinner together total of 6.5 hours. It was so fun. Before we go he said “this is our first date” and stepped back “whoa this is just a joke he?” and during dinner he said this is our first date again, with a serious tone.

Some days later I went him to ask if he was joking or he saw it really a date. I told him from the way he asked it I thought it was casual but I added that I am okay if he saw it as a date as well. He said that “he only knows it was an amazing night, I am a very nice woman in the office but much nicer outside, he never got bored for even a second and everything worth repeating.” and he added if I want to see a movie again I should let him know. Then we exchanged a few messages, he said he wants to talk again in person.

We went for the second time to discuss it again. He asked what a date means to me. I explained again that I am okay if it is dating, I am open to have fun and I like him. I said the same things we have done is a date for me but if there are romantic undertones. Otherwise it is friendly hangout. He said he likes me very much but he said romantic is impossible between us because he is too old and I am too beautiful so in this case his first date comment is joke. Then we went out of the car, he asked if he can hug me, I said yes, we hugged, I asked if you are okay and he said yes, he needed that. Then we went to dinner, had a very fun conversation and left.

We got in the car, we were joking and somehow the topic came up again “would you like it to be a date?” and I didn’t answer properly because he said it was impossible, we were already in front of my house, I got out.

Next day we were in the office. He mentioned I didn’t answer and ran away from the car. I said I have answered but he said no I did not. I said to him that he is never clear but expect clearance from other one and he said no he is clear. I got shocked.

Some hrs later we were working on a work topic, he again mentioned about this, something about I never give answers wrapped with joke, I said we have to talk again.

By the way, he still keeps on dating while lying to me about it.

What the f***? He said impossible then why he pushes for this. What to do?