BPs - what do you do to have your WW help you in your healing / spirals?

3 years married - Dday September 9th 2025 - R since November - 5 month physical affair / 1 year emotional.

Hi all. I’m in need of advice. I don’t know how my WH can help me. When I spiral or have my panick attacks / crying sessions he sits with me and listens to me cry my eyes out about the stress and turmoil I’m going through. He asks me “what can I do to help?”, “is there anything I can do to help you feel better?” . I honestly don’t know. I wish I did like I know him sitting there and listening I feel acknowledged but is there more he could do?

I have no clue. I know it may be personal preference so if you are comfortable with it, can you share what you do or ask? I can get ideas or maybe even see if I can see myself relating and seeing if it helps me?

Thank you x

Also, WW’s are encouraged to share too how you’re helping and I know it’ll give me a perspective I may not even know or see. Thank you again ♡