Unsure about Dom's potential reaction

I introduced my husband to BDSM about 18 months ago and we are having a ton of fun with it. He is very open and enjoying it.

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However, we have not played at all with anything involving humiliation/degradation and have not done any scenes which would cause that to come up. Also, I am not as open to allowing things that could end up being embarrassing.

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In my past relationships, I really enjoyed some forms of humiliation/degradation as well as doing things I'm uncomfortable with or that cause embarrassment. In those situations though, I knew that the D(s) I was with would take 100% responsibility for anything that happened/would not ever make me feel as if any of it was real outside of a scene.

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With my husband though, we have a very joking/sarcastic/give each other a hard time dynamic outside of the bedroom. It worries me a little bit going towards the humiliation/degradation side of things as well as more adventurous scenes that he will judge me for it later.

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Example: laying naked in the bathtub with vomit and belt marks all over, being peed on before a cold hosing off. I worry something like that would cause him to see me differently.

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I guess I'm trying to figure out how to trust he wouldn't judge/see me differently given our non play dynamic. Or trying to decide if he would "take responsibility for any outcomes caused during play".

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One other note, the one time I mentioned humiliation, his response was surprised, "you want me to humiliate you?" Which kind of threw me off.