Dont know if a girl is really scared to get attached or if she has low interest in me

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Hi,

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I have been seeing this girl for 1 month now, we usually meet up and have drink, it's been 5 or 6 times now and nothing happened, no kiss or anything.

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When we started to see each other she immediatly told me that she is slow to open and i made it clear it was no problem for me, but to be fair things are starting to be unclear for me, on our last meet up she sent really mixed signals, she said that she was thinking that I see her as a friend, so i told her that I like her and that I dont wanna be friend with her but that I was not escalating things with her because she said she needed time and never sent signals that she was ready.

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She then proceeded to open up and said she was scared to get attached because one of her boyfriend died in an accident 5 years ago and that she had a really brutal death in her family a few weeks ago. To be fair i did not see how that's relevant because she had another BF for 3 years after him but I said that I understand but that I needed time to think because i am not going to keep seeing someone im interested in when they are scared to get attached

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The next day she texted me to tell me that she shouldn't have told me, that it was gonna change the way i see our relationship, so I told her my problem was her saying she was scared to get attached that I did not wanted to get invested in a relationship with someone that dont want to open up, and she said that telling me that was her way of opening up and that she would not have tell me that if our relation was not going anywhere.

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At this point im really asking for help, my main concern is that usually the "I dont want to get attached" is a big red flag to me because its usually used when someone has low interest into you but on the other hand why would she say all this if she did not cared ?

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Thanks to everyone that will read and give advice, I really have no idea of what I should do next