I'm confused whether this is a normal behavior not being able to hold his desire back even when in conflict?

Me 'F 31' and my bf 'M 24' (been together for 1 year now), had a conflict recently because I found out that he lied to me about going out with a girl I told him not to go out with before, and he promised me he won't. When I knew that I got very angry and I told him that we need to talk, so he kept postponing that conversation for almost two weeks now, saying that he's not ready to have this hard conversations right before his exams. So I kept a distance since then, that we barely talk. Today we were arguing again about the importance of having this conversation, and long story short, after we settled to an "agreement" that we will switch places and I'll go out with my male friends even if that bothers him to see if I'm really making a big issue out of nothing or it's really annoying thing. Right after that he called me and told me that he wants my feet ( he has a foot fetish!) As much as I'm understanding this kink, I can't get how can he still think of that while we are on bad terms with each other, because that's happens very often no matter whether we were on good terms or bad terms. To be honest that's a little weird and a little scary for me. It makes me feel totally unseen and unheard! How can he still ask for intimacy at the very exact time that he refuses to go through that hard conversation with me. He tells me that I don't understand him and that he feels unheard when I reject that. However it's me that feels that I have been talking all that time to myself. It makes me feel so lonely and so disappointed that thing can change or that he can ever hold responsibility for the issues that we go through.