Will try to make this short...

I am in my early 20's but past 21 and have recently graduated college (undergrad) and have plans to move to Northern California whereby dad's family resides but for now am living with my parents at home in Oregon. I have been in the dorms for 3 years (Freshman they would not let me yet) and have been in the same room even during the summers until now of course. You know the story you turn 16, then 18 expecting things to magically be better with you and the way your parents "parent" you but nothing does. Being 18 as a Senior in HS was hell on earth for me. My bedtime was 9 pm and I didn't have to get up until 8 am and no hanging out with friends after dinner so if dinner time was around 6 I had only like 2 hours after school (got out at 3:30). Not allowed t pick out my own clothing until I turned 15 and even then heavily looked at before purchasing. 1000 missed calls if I was out to late or just wanted a phone detox even. Fast forward to now and it's still the same essentially and I am loosing my mind. Thing is I choose not to drink and stay out past 10 pm and dress in vintage clothing that's super modest (mostly) but yet they still are sooo concerned either my well being. I told them I felt super hot because I accidentally slept with to many blankets while on vacay with my best friend at her parents house and since coming back home form that it's been 3 days end every day my dad especially is freaking out if I hadn't yet had lunch and it's passed 1:30 (sometimes I like to eat a little later or just have a snack ok?) Or when I tried to be nice and go to the farmers market to get my entire family dinner since there was no plane but my bag I brought with me broke so I asked my dad to pick me up at the bus stop so I wouldn't have to walk 10 minutes ore to the house and a huge lecture about how irresponsible I was what If I wasn't free etc came on. (How was I supposed out know my bag would break? At least I brought a bag.) And my mom making me and my 18 yr old sibling take turns cleaning the/using the bathroom. (This bathroom only I can't use theirs even tho Ive told them the water takes forever to get warm.) Can't go to any concert by myself bc I can't drive but I am a wizz at public transport and have portable chargers. (Main concern is what if a homeless person rapes me or something like that.) Before I move to Northern California any ways rot cope would be most appreciated. I am not moving until August. They also are insisting to come with my since I can't drive in a moving truck with all of us squished into the front seat for an 8 hour drive to help me move in for 3 days. Yes they are staying overnight and are making me come back with them in the empty van because my mom's family is going to the beach two weeks later and they don't think I can stay there yet like it's way to soon. (I'm sure I could survive with the money from my current job I have 3x rent if needed even tho I will not have a new job their right away I know all the bus routs and my apartment is walking distance from downtown.) Best friend and her family live 2 hours away from there and thinks my parents are totally crazy and will refuse to stay at my house because of this witch is understandable. Her mom is excited for her to become her peer and my parents in family therapy told me "We will never be your friends, just your parents." (lol.) I don't know how much linger of this I can take also because of this economy ofc they had to be co signers on the apartment so bc of that they feel the need to take control of my move and do a lot of stuff. (I have debit no credit and no money in their name thankfully) How do I win then and now??