How to describe soft limerence?

💁‍♀️ seeking advice / support / information

Hello, it's my first time posting here, I'm excited to be here.

So I've got limerence, or at least a soft version of it I guess. When I read about limerence it always feels too harsh for what I feel. I have it very rarely and it's not necessarily romantically motivated, sometimes I'm just upper interested in a person and I really REALLY want to get to know them, befriend them and become someone special for them.

Usually I'm very friendly to other people but they don't interest me as much. I've got very good friends that I can be totally honest with and I'm interested in them and their lifes but it's not the same thing as with those special people. I'm sure some of you know what I'm talking about.

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I tried to explain it to a friend and it was very hard to find the right words for it without sounding mean. So I wondered how you guys would explain that feeling and those special persons. I went with "I'm super interested in them, their lifes, their personality, I think of them a lot, even when we didn't interact, mostly I kind of forget about people, looking them into the eyes is not just not bad, it's actually really nice, so is touch. I don't have that with other friends.", which is obviously mean as hell but I don't know how else to describe it.

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It would really help me to read your thoughts and experiences.

Posted Jun 14, 2026, 12:10 PM UTC

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