Do I still pursue my crush? JK

I apologise in advance if this is a really long but I really want to lay out the full picture.

I’m 17 (f) and have a crush on a guy in my year (17 (m)) at school. We have no classes together but have a few mutual friends (a guy in my friend group is friends with my crushes friend group and a very close female friend of mine works closely with him in their school roles (both of these people will be relevant later).

I’ve liked him now for 2 months and it’s not anything crazy or intense because I’ve never spoken to him before and we don’t have any classes together. To just lay it out: he’s very conventionally attractive, tall, extremely smart, really athletic and in amazing shape, funny etc and there have been a number of girls that have liked him in the past but from what I’ve heard he’s not been in any relationships that my close friends know of. Not to shine my own shoes but I’m also quite attractive, athletic, and tall myself, but I understand that it’s personality that will bring two people together. Saying that, I know we both have a bunch of interests in common too. At this point my interest is pretty much just vibes based.

For the past few weeks every time I look at him he looks back and maintains the eye contact without breaking it, and one time when I was sitting with a few friends at lunch he came up to the table to talk to one of my friends that he has a class with and asked her a question (i couldn’t really hear what it was as we were in the lunch hall and it was loud) and she said to him “why would you ask that you already know the answer…we talked about this” and his eyes kept darting over to me (bear in mind that I’m so nervous around him so I tried to look really discretely). This was a little suspicious to me but I didn’t take it as anything.

This is some background info but now I come onto the catalyst of why I came to this sub.

A week ago my friend (the guy in my friend group who is also friends with my crushes friend group that I mentioned at the start) hosted a party. A bunch on people from my year were there, including my crush and his friends. I got to the party about 45 mins after it started and the only people there were my friend group and my crush which was insane bc what are the odds he’s the only one not from my friend group there. I greeted the host and my friends and my crush was kinda awkward. My crush greeted one guy that came in in front of me and and went into the garden alone and left the kitchen we were all in. About 10 mins later I was talking to my friend with my back to a wall (but there was a huge gap between the wall and myself, definitely wide enough for a guy to walk through without touching anyone) and my crush walked behind me and his forearm and bicep literally brushed right up against my back. I still don’t know if it was on purpose to grab my attention or he’s just clumsy.

Then came theeee moment of the night. I went to the bathroom but I realised it was locked and someone was inside, so I leaned against the wall directly facing the door and waited for the person inside to open up (I think you see where this is going) I brought my cup to my lips and was taking a sip when the door opened and low and behold… he was standing there. Get this. We locked eyes and he smirked. SMIRKED. Genuinely smirked and walked to the living room but kinda held the bathroom door open for me a bit which was lowkey unnecessary (it’s not a swinging door and would’ve stayed open itself) but he did it anyway.

I haven’t detailed every single interaction but these are the most significant I think… I feel like the smirk means one of two things.. it’s reciprocal and he’s just flirting and acting cocky (as I also do ngl) or he’s aware that I like him and likes the fact that I’m flirting and giving him attention but doesn’t like me.
My close female friend (that I mentioned working with him at school) said that he’s just flirting back in the hard to get way and he probably wants more as well but just wants more of an obvious indication that I’m into him. I’m not so sure. She wants me to talk to him but I have no idea how to.
Some advice would be great (should I talk to him before summer break? Should I move on? Should I make my interest more obvious?)

tysm for reading all the way if you did 💞💞

Posted Jun 14, 2026, 12:19 PM UTC

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